No Goo Goo Ga Ga, no Snookie Snookie Boo Boo, etc.
I’ve always addressed him like an adult.
At 8 years old, we have very adult like convos as well.
Although these are very mature topics, the conversation has always come pretty fluid for us.
Yesterday however, I had to talk to him about school shootings. Nothing could prepare me for that.
In Newtown, Connecticut a gunman walked into Sandy Hook Elementary school and killed 20 children, 6 adults, and himself.
It is the deadliest Elementary school shooting in our history and 2nd deadliest school shooting (in 2007, 33 people were gunned down at Virginia Tech).
Like the rest of the Nation, I was paralyzed and numb to the audacity of a crime against such young and innocent victims.
As a parent, I was filled with shock and rage.
There is no way to understand why someone would do such a horrific act. There’s no reasoning, no logical explanation.
I knew Mo would have many questions and I tried to prepare myself to answer them. As I told him what happened at Sandy Hook Elementary his eyes filled with tears and his body stiffened. He listened intently as I explained the senseless crime.
I could only imagine what was going through his mind.
He wanted to learn more. We watched President Obama’s speech about the tragedy and Mo shed tears with our President.
He listened to the news reports give a detailed account of the chain of events. After watching for 30 minutes, he turns to me and asks, “Would you cry if I died?”.
He had a blank look in his eyes. I could tell his brain was overrun with thoughts. Then the questions came:
Why did the shooter’s mom own so many guns?
Why would someone wanna kill KIDS?
How can you harm someone so little?
How does a person get mental illness?
Is someone born crazy or does something happen to them in life to make them like that?
Did the shooter have good parents growing up?
Was the shooter bullied when he was a kid?
I realized that Mo’s questions were very much like the same questions we as adults are asking.
Although some would say he is too young to be talking about and learning of such mature content, I think it is just a reflection of the world we now live in.
He needs to be aware we don’t live in a perfect world.
Everyone doesn’t have good intentions.
I want my sons to be prepared for what is going on in the world and what can affect them.
At 8 years old, he should be catching fireflies, playing soccer, discussing his girl crush.
However, things have changed.
Now, we have to think twice about our safety when we fly, shop, see a movie, and go to school.
It’s a sad reality.
There are no words to express the feeling for the victims and families in Newtown.
We mourn the deaths and pray for the survivors, as they have been stripped of their innocence.
These senseless acts of violence must end.
My heart and prayers go out the the people in Newtown.