Sorry Folks, My Kids Need Me

I was at the park the other day and observed a mom texting on her phone. Her son was building a sandcastle nearby and wanted his mom to join in.

Basically, he was trying to connect with her.

He couldn’t because she was on her phone connecting with something else.

As I watched the scenario play out I thought, “OMG…is that ME???”.

I am guilty of texting, tweeting, and being on my phone with my kids. Seeing how this child just wanted some attention from his mom, really put things into perspective for me.

If I had a 9-5 office job, I wouldn’t be be tending to frivolous text convos, catching up w/friends, or constantly tweeting. Since I’m a stay at home mom, being with my kids is technically my “job” so I should treat it more seriously and respect some boundaries.

Very few calls/texts I get are about good news.

The majority of texts and calls I get while I’m with my kids have to do with negative things or problems which in turn affect my mood and how I react to my kids.

Overall, it’s just draining.

It’s not fair to my children that I feel disheartened because of something going on in someone else’s life.

The other day I was dealing with a homework issue with Mo and someone kept texting me about their cheating BF (who cheated for the 4th time). I got so enthralled in the convo, that I unfairly snapped at Mo. I would have been able to handle the homework situation better and more calm if my attention wasn’t directed or annoyed at someone else’s situation.

I realized I need to re-prioritize my life.

My kids are my priority. I try to find the balance of being a Mom and friend/personal life. But when things going on in other people’s life affect my mood and personality with the boys in a negative manner, that’s where I have to draw the line.

Sometimes there are situations we can’t control, but THIS is something I have the power to change.

I’d rather be a bad friend than a bad mom.

I owe it to my kids.

I’m not saying I don’t want to talk to people or I won’t be tweeting, I’m just trying to rid unnecessary negative forces from my life. It is really affecting my interaction with my kids.

Maybe my patience is thinning as I get older.

Maybe I’m maturing and growing into a better mom.

Whatever it is, I realize I’m not getting anything POSITIVE  from other people’s NEGATIVE energy and I refuse to let it affect my children.

It’s impossible to get time back. I don’t want to continue spending a chunk of my Mommy time addressing issues that have nothing to do with my kids. That’s just not the kind of mom I want to be.

I love social media, my friends, Hot Guys, and family, but if it doesn’t have to do with death, a serious issue, or a paycheck, I AM PUTTING MY KIDS FIRST.

Everything else can and will wait.

 

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