Growing up multiracial in the South taught me a lot, but umm…..I didn’t want my boys to grow up thinking the term “good hair” was a common word in Webster’s Dictionary.
Mo and B both have their own unique look, but it is pretty evident that they have a mixed racial background. This became apparent to Morris around age 5 when he started questioning why his hair wasn’t straight and blonde like the majority of people at his school. So, he started to question why our family looked so different.
In a perfect world, I would like to tell him he is mixed with ♥LOVE♥ and live happily ever after. But yeah, not enough.
The fact that social culture is filled with many mixed race personalities seem to help me sell my sons that it’s cool and ok to look “different”. President Obama, Halle Berry, Salma Hayek, Dereck Jeter, Jessica Alba, Tiger Woods, Mariah Carey, and Dwayne Johnson to name a few.
WOW!!!!….I’m sorry….what were talking about again?
Oh yeah, teaching Mo about HAWT AND SEXY MIXED RACE PEOPLE diversity.
After pointing out the familiar celebrity faces, we talked about our own family tree. How me and his dad are different colors, how my parents are different colors, all the different colors of cousins, etc. Then we talked about friends of his who are also children of interracial relationships.
This really seemed to help make sense for Mo the most. He has 3 good friends that are also mixed and knows their parents as well. The visual really seemed to register in his mind. Then it all started to click.
At some point it became a regular game where we’d be out in public and Mo would point and shout, “HEY MOM…look at that kid! Is he multiracial? His mom is a white lady and his dad is a black man.” So, as I was glad Mo was starting to understand the concept, we would quickly switch to scissors, paper, rock (did someone say The Rock?! lol). Even now, I love to hear him explain the concept to his younger brother, “B, you see that little boy on the swings, he’s multiracial. His mom and dad are different colors just like ours. Isn’t that KEWL?”
Self image is really important to all children and it starts at such a young age and in the home.
There are some great books that help also. I use these to read but also, just to have in the house for my kids to see “different” faces on a regular basis.
In time, I just hope that my boys are confident young men who appreciate differences in themselves and others. Hopefully this is a good start.
Children are not born prejudiced. Teach them tolerance, love, and acceptance in your words and actions. – Nora Moore