Mommy vs. Nora
Lately I’ve been trying to figure out how to balance being “mommy” and being “Nora.”
I realized that when I write blog entries, I am in “mommy” mode. When I’m on facebook or on the phone with a friend, I’m in “Nora” mode. Sometimes I feel bi-polar trying to balance the 2 personalities.
When I write here, I am constantly imagining that Morris and Bronson are reading and I don’t want to set a bad example or say something they might question as far as integrity or kindness goes. Then I feel like I’m setting a bad example, thus being a bad mom.
Even when I’m at the park or on a playdate with them, I find it hard balancing mommy mode and “me”. I’m constantly putting on a smile and trying to be perfect mom. Especially when I know they’re watching.
Do all moms live to please their kids like this?
But when I’m away from them, all that goes out the window. Does that make me a mommy freak?
It’s kind of hard to explain. But I hope someone knows where I’m coming from.
As a mom, I think we all tend to lose ourselves a little. It’s so easy to do.
I’m constantly telling Mo, “Don’t eat candy. It’s so bad for you. You’ll get cavities.”
But, who am I kidding? I’m secretly wanting him NOT to eat it so I can have it. I’ve got a filling in almost all my molars from my childhood love affair with purple Jolly Ranchers and pineapple and banana Now and Laters.
Or I often say, “Don’t call that kid a jerk or douche Mo, that’s inappropriate.”
But, let someone cut me off on the road, Biatch please…
I guess it’s just part of the motherhood journey. I’m still searching for my balance. I need to be a good mom, and a happy person.
How do you balance the two?
This one is easy. I’m a bitch all the time. Problem solved. No balance needed.
Yum…now n laters and jolly ranchers. Balance is key to remain a healthy person. But it’s ok if your kids see that yur not perfect and make mistakes too. Let your hair down a little around them.
That’s why GNO and date mights are so important. It gives you a chance to relax and be yourself. Make sure you get out away from your kids.
Just be yourself around your boys. They will find comfort that you aren’t perfect and you make mistakes, eat junk, and say potty works on occasion.